Why do you REALLY want to lose weight?

Did you start the year out with a resolution to lose weight?

How is it going? This is the 4th week of 2021, so most people have already started over 4 times! Every Monday is a new start, right? Is this you?

Have you ever stopped to ask, "Why do I really want to lose weight?" Most will say to be healthier or to look better, or maybe they want to get back into their skinny jeans. While these all seem like legit reasons, they are probably not the real reason.

Most people want to lose weight because they are really just trying to find a way to like themselves more. True story.

They have learned that they are broken through conditioning because they are not a certain weight or look the way society says they should look. 

So they join gyms, hire trainers, take supplements, create food plans, and continue practicing hating their bodies to "fix" themselves - to make them like themselves more. And sometimes they even lose weight... but they do not necessarily feel better about themselves. 

Their ultimate goal is to stop feeling bad. They think once they lose "x" number of pounds, they will be there, and once they get there, they will feel better. They will finally be happy. Except it doesn't work that way. The issue is not the weight but rather the fact they hate themselves in the first place and think losing weight is the way to correct that. 

Don't believe me? Substitute weight with a career or a financial situation, or a romantic relationship.
"I will be happy when I finally have _____________."
Once they get there, they can finally be happy.

It's our thoughts of there that are actually the problem.
What if you are already there and you are missing out on all of the happiness?
What if you are not broken and don't need to be fixed?
What if you just need to change your thought about there? Or what if you give yourself permission to be happy now, on the way to there? 

This is what I help the women I work with do. I help them look at their thoughts. 
You can lose weight. Losing weight is just math. It's the thoughts about it - and the thoughts about you- that are the problem. I invite you to take advantage of a free coaching session to explore some of your thoughts that might be holding you back from your happiness.

Sincerely,
​Donda